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A newsletter for Parents, Nannies and Agency Owners
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Vol. 2, No. 6 May 2001
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Deborah Smith, Editor
Parents With Nannies, Inc.
Deborah@4EverythingNanny.com
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IN THIS ISSUE
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> A Note from the Editor
> April Sweepstakes
March's winner
> Soothe Separation Anxiety
by Brenda Nixon
From her book, Parenting Power in the Early Years
> NAN Conference
> Ask the Experts Q & A
Taxes and Summer Nannies
> A NannyClassifieds.com Success Story
> MUST SEE SITES
> GREAT DEALS
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A NOTE FROM THE EDITOR:
Hi All,
Well, I'm still here, still pregnant, and gaining more and more respect
for all you moms out there who have carried your babies to term and
then some. With my last baby, I was home already recovering and taking
care of a newborn. Not this time. This baby is bound and determined to
have me experience the "real deal." Ah well, wish me luck. He's due to
arrive May 11. Given that the next month will be spent recovering from
a C-section and fighting sleep deprivation, I've decided that June's
issue of Nanny Net News will not be happening (aside from sending you
a short notice regarding our sweepstakes winner.) Call it my maternity
leave if you will. I promise to be back on track in July.
We've got a great article for you this month on Separation Anxiety
from Brenda Nixon, author of Parenting Power in the Early Years.
We also have a list of great Mother's Day websites to help you get
your charges busy preparing for Mom's special day.
The National Association of Nannies is gearing up for their Annual
Conference in September. You can read more about the conference in this
newsletter and enter to win a free One Year Nanny Membership to NAN.
Best wishes for a great Memorial Day Weekend (remember that sunscreen!)
Deborah Smith
Editor
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APRIL'S SWEEPSTAKES
The Winner of the "You Grew In My Heart" pendant by
HeartbeatDesigns.com is Lycette Mizrahi of NYC.
Congratulations Lycette!
This lovely pendant makes the perfect gift for Mothers Day,
newbirth and adoption, nannies, midwives, doula's, infant
nurses and just about anyone with a career involving babies.
We hope you enjoy this beautiful pendant.
MAY SWEEPSTAKES
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Click on the link to enter http://www.4EverythingNanny.com/Sweepstakes.htm
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SOOTHE SEPARATION ANXIETY
An Excerpt from Parenting Power in the Early Years
by Brenda Nixon
At about eight to ten months of age, your baby may start a
painful stage of development. These past months he has become
increasingly attached to you as you’ve met his needs on a
regular basis. Now when you leave him at daycare or with
Grandpa and Grandma, he suddenly starts crying. Big tears
roll down his chubby cheeks, and his lower lip rolls out
and quivers. You sense he feels anxious, and that parental
instinct kicks in. You reach out to take him back in your
arms and with comforting words whisper that you are near.
He calms as you wipe away the tears. Then he turns back
into the happy boy you know. You hand him over to the other
pair of arms and he winds up again like a siren.
This is called separation anxiety. There’s good and bad news
about it. First, the good news is that you’ve done nothing wrong.
If you’re employed outside the home and leave your baby in the
arms of another, you are not making it worse or better.
If you are a stay-at-home parent you are not making it worse
or better. It is a stage of development as natural as learning
to walk.
Actually, your child is experiencing a burst of development in
two areas. Your little one is experiencing more long-term memory,
or what experts call cognitive growth. What was once “out of
sight out of mind” is now out of sight and still in mind. The
thought of your leaving his sight is causing him grief. He is
quite sensitive now to the comings and goings of the important
people in his life.
He is also progressing in his social skills. While he needs you,
he also wants to separate from you. This inner conflict of
dependence versus independence and learning to separate can be
quite troubling.
The bad news is that separation anxiety has to take its sweet
time to blossom, wither, and pass away. Then it may bloom again
when he’s three or even a kindergartner. If it does return,
come back to this section of my book and read it again.
Right now you can help your baby learn to cope with separation.
Play games in which you hide a toy under a blanket then find it
together, or play peekaboo often. Both these games teach your baby
that his world is predictable and safe. These simple social
activities have more value than just entertainment.
Next tell yourself that separation anxiety is natural, and your
response will make it worse or better. The best way to soothe
the pain of separation anxiety is to confront it. Give your baby
a reassuring hug and kiss before you hand him over to your caregiver.
Then say, “I will be back,” turn, and leave. Some daycares have
a “good-bye window” where parent and child may stand to wave to one
another.
If you linger, you send a message that you’re unsure about your
child’s ability to cope with separation. He will cope with time
and opportunity. Hippocrates said, “Healing is a matter of time,
but it is sometimes also a matter of opportunity.”
If you sneak out, you give the impression that you are not a
predictable parent. If you make statements like, “You shouldn’t cry,”
you disrespect his sadness. And if, within minutes, you rush in to
rescue, he learns to cry until you return. Any of these responses
will sabotage efforts to help your child mature.
One of my daughters expressed her anxiety more passionately than
the other. When she cried I went to war within myself; my head
said that she’s be find, but my heart screamed, “Go get her!”
It is skillful parenting to understand that while separation
anxiety is difficult, it is a part of growing and learning to
handle new feelings. Your baby is remarkably resilient; with
your respect and care, he will learn to cope with losses.
Now that’s a valuable life skill!
To Order the Book go to
http://www.4EverythingNanny.com/book_of_the_month.htm
Copyright 2001, Brenda Nixon, from her book Parenting Power
in the Early Years. For more helpful childcare
tips visit Brenda's website at:
www.brendanixon.com
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Brenda Nixon is a professional speaker and author of
Parenting Power in the Early Years
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NAN CONFERENCE
by Valarie Gauntt
Plans for the National Association of Nannies, "We Care for the Future"
conference 2001, are well underway! The conference will be held at
the Embassey Suites in Atlanta Georgia this year September 28th,
29th and 30th. The conference committee has been hard at work since
last September to try to make this year’s conferences as educational
and entertaining as last years.
Early registration for the conference runs through June 1, 2001. NAN
Members can register for just $125 which includes all meals except
Friday and Saturday evening dinner. All rooms are suites and the cost
is $120 per night for up to 6 peope in a room.
We have been able to line up a great list of speakers this year, that
include Jane Robelot (Former Co Host of the Early Show with Bryant Gumbel)
as our keynote speaker at lunch on Saturday. We also have Elaine
Tibbitts who’s session title is Power Struggles 101. She will speak
to us on how to avoid a power struggle with your charge, or anyone else.
She will also teach us how to get out of the struggle if it was unavoidable.
More topics to be covered at the conference this year will be, nanny
taxes, why we should pay them, and other topics regarding nanny expenses,
and what we can write off our taxes etc. We will have a nanny panel
discussion that will allow you as a member to ask veteran nannies
questions about the nanny profession.
Dr. Eva Harkness has agreed to grace us with her fantastic presence!
She will be talking about issues with older children. We will also be
adding roundtable discussions to our lineup this year, to give attendees
the chance to discuss a variety of issues that are important to them,
in a setting that is comfortable.
The Professional Nanny Association of Atlanta will be hosting the
cocktail party, which will be very different this year, but you will
have to visit the NAN website www.nannyassociaiton.com/conference to
get more information on that.
We will be celebrating National Nanny Recognition Week September 23-29
and we will have special recognition of nannies on Friday, which will
be proclaimed "Nanny Day" in Atlanta.
This year’s conference is sure to be a success, but will not be near as
successful if you are not there, so please make plans to attend, and we
will see ya’ll in the south in September!
Glenda Propst
National Association of Nannies
www.nannyassociation.com
"run by nannies for nannies"
NAN Conference in Atlanta September 28-30
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ASK THE EXPERTS Q & A
Q: I am hiring a part time nanny for my daughter this
summer. What do I need to know about witholding taxes?
A: If you pay your part-time nanny more than $1300 during
the summer, you are required to withhold and file taxes
as a household employer. You will need to withhold Social
Security and Medicare, and you will also pay employer
taxes in addition to her salary - about 10% of her salary.
These taxes are paid to the state and federal tax entities
on the calendar quarter. You may also utilize your tax
break - dependent care account - to cover salary
and taxes.
I hope this helps. Please feel free to give us a call
for more detail.
Stephanie Breedlove
1-888-BREEDLOVE
www.breedlove-online.com
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A NANNYCLASSIFIEDS.COM SUCCESS STORY
Dear NannyClassifieds.com
I found your website through an online search engine
and am so glad that I did! I had been looking for a
summer nanny posistion for a couple of months and hadn't
been very successful in my search. When I posted an ad
on the nanny classifieds website, I had many responses.
Because of this, I was able to pick the right posistion
for me. I am now headed to Washington D.C. for the summer
to be a nanny for three adorable children. I am so thankful
that there is a website out there like nannyclassifieds.com,
without it I wouldn't have found the 'right' job for me!
Sincerely,
Mandy
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MUST SEE MOTHER'S DAY SITES
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I hope you have enjoyed this month's issue of Nanny Net News.
See you next month, if I'm not having a baby. :o)
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